So, here is what I have learned-Married life does not at all change the habits of a household of animals. They eat and sleep and poo on schedule. Married life does not, also, make any difference to the dogs missing you while away. They have no understanding of our absence, and clearly don’t care at the importance it carries for us humans. What they know is that a near stranger watched them for two weeks, in-home, and that something is not quite right…
I also learned that my love of animals runs deep because the resort we stayed at had a resident dog, Mia, whom I cuddled with abandon. She made me feel better, took the edge away from the sadness of missing my loves, and was just distant enough for me not to get attached-perfect in every way.
He was also chained to a line that he had clearly been tied to for far too long: The collar had been matted into his hair. His paws were so matted and uncared for that he had issues walking to me. After talking to the staff to which he belonged (there was no home, just the commercial building) I was told he was friendly, sometimes. This boy was ecstatic to have attention, and even more so to have water. I filled all five bowls with water from the tap not 20 feet from his chain. How easy it would be for the staff to do the same…
“I also re-learned that people are at their worst when they are apathetic.”
And marriage, as lovely as it is, doesn’t solve this problem. We still breathe and live our day to day. We still try to do the right thing, even though it is rarely easy. I cannot say the same for everyone I have met recently, in rescue or beyond, but I can say I married a lovely man who helps me bring water to strange growling dogs, making sure that I am safe in the process. Man, I love him. And I know he loves me because he puts up with my desire to try to help things that sometimes can’t be helped
A new year and I am loving it, learning things about my loves, my new husband, myself…A year for gratitude, this 2016.
I will write again soon.
P.S. When my new husband (still SO weird to say!) read this to edit, he said I made a mistake by saying he puts up with my desire. He says he love me because of it…egads, I am a lucky girl that married a guy that is not only a great dog daddy but loves me for being a great dog mommy.